The story of my life
In my previous blog post, I talked about trauma, and I mentioned that one of the solutions to trauma is permitting ourselves to heal. Healing isn’t linear. Some days may be easy and kind, some days may be tough. But with healing, comes growth.
Growth is the process by which we recognize and continually develop ourselves to reach our full potential. I love talking about growth so much.
In my March 2021 blog post, I talked about my growth in my past 20 years on earth. Absolutely! It’s been God all the way! I’m a living testimony of God’s faithfulness, goodness, grace, divine favour and blessing. Who I am today and who I was four years ago, are two different persons. I have grown into a better woman that I can look into the mirror and be proud of.
Although I still got work to do because this isn’t my best me yet. I am super excited about the woman I’ve become. A Writer. A Blogger. A Feminist! A beautiful soul in and out.
It took so much accountability on my past mistakes and growth to be where and who I am today. In 2018, I remember always being in tears because of my jamb score, waec result, and my academics as a whole. In 2019, I was numb. The constant feeling of blaming myself for my state at the time, kept coming back and forth. I was not living in the moment. In 2020 and early 2021(basically my year 2), it felt like the universe was against me. I can also recall the down moments I had because I didn’t get to study Medicine in University of Calabar. Lol.
Now, I’m so excited that I’m studying Human Anatomy (4-year course). Honestly, God knows best. Today, with my full chest, I can say that I’m no longer afraid of failing. I know it’s normal for humans to feel worried, especially about failure, owing to how we grew up. Now, I have control over this overwhelmed feeling. I react differently to challenges. I speak and act with positivity.
I started from 2018 to discuss my growth because those years have been the toughest periods in my life. My growth for the past 20 years? Beautiful😍 And that’s on periodt!
God is the Greatest! The part I love the most is my relationship with God. Over the years, I’ve grown to love God more, his word, his son Jesus and his wonderful works in my life. I’m a living testimony of ‘What God cannot do, does not exist’. My relationship with God has grown healthier and stronger, and yours should too. Sometimes, it is hard to see the accomplishment in your life when you’re so focused on being productive daily. Start enjoying your little achievements. Life is a process.
I feel growth is really essential in life. Just as arthropods shed off their old skin, we as humans need to shed off old mistakes, habits, lifestyle and characters that are not helping us grow well. Growth is a lifetime practice.
You need to look at your younger self and be like, wow! I am a better person now”, “I’m my best self now”, “It’s lovely to see me become the woman/man of my dreams”.
Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck where you do not belong. ~N. R. Narayana Murthy
Just as your favorite shoes or cloths, with time, they get so tight on you or get torn. You have to get rid of them and purchase new ones which will fit you better. What growth does, is to make you look new. It builds you to be a better person. When you get a new pair of shoes, people’s first reaction will be “Wow, you bought a new shoe!”. Next reaction will be, “it looks so good on you! That’s what growth does, too. It makes one look more beautiful. It makes you glow up physically, mentally, spiritually, academically, and in everything.
In life, we need to understand that, we sometimes grow on people. Similar to when you meet a stranger, you get to know the person. If you feel one another’s vibe, then you become friends. After a period of time, you become best of friends. That is to say, you grew on that person. But it’s not every stranger that becomes your friend. That’s how growth is. You accept and grow on characters, some you may accept and get rid of them with time, and some you don’t accept at all.
One thing I love about growth is that, you become the person of your dreams, enjoy and get to love who you are. When it feels like you have not achieved anything in life, look back at your life and see how far you have come. You have come too far to give up. Growth makes you live a life of your dreams instead of regrets.
It is those daily habits and activities which you carry out that makes up your growth. That’s why we need to be careful of what we engage ourselves. Growth can also take place in business, life itself and in everything.
If you are reading this, life is more beautiful with you in it. Growth is the only evidence of a life lived. This is the story of my life, and I’m rooting for you.