Psychologist: How are you?
Kate: I don’t feel good.
Psychologist: I hope after our meeting you’ll feel better.
Kate: I woke up this morning and I felt regretful.
Psychologist: Can you tell me why?
Kate: After spending 10 years of my life with him, I woke up to hear the news of him getting married. He said we were only going on a break. I thought we just needed time for ourselves, little did I know it was a breakup. With all of this, I don’t think I can fall in love again.
Psychologist: Thank you for being honest with me, Kate. I’m sorry you had to experience this. You need just one thing to keep going, that’s THE POWER OF RESILIENCE. Can we discuss it?
Kate: Yes, I guess….
Thomas Edison made thousands of prototypes of the incandescent light bulb before he finally got it right. Since the prolific inventor was awarded more than 1,000 patents, it’s easy to imagine him failing on a daily basis in his laboratory at Menlo Park, USA. Despite struggling with failure throughout his entire working life, Edison never let it get the best of him. His resilience gave the world some of the most amazing inventions of the early 20th Century, such as Phonograph, Telegraphy and the motion picture.
It’s hard to imagine what our world would be like if Edison had given up after his few failures. His inspiring story makes us look at our own lives. Do we have the resilience that we need to overcome our challenges? or do we let our failures derail our dreams? and what could we accomplish if we had the strength not to quit?
In this blog post, we’ll examine the power of resilience:
•what it is
•why we need it
•how to develop it
so that we have the strength and fortitude to overcome adversity and to keep on moving forward towards our dreams and goals.
Why is Resilience needed?
•Resilience is what gives us the emotional strength to cope with trauma, adversity and hardship.
•It empowers people to accept and adapt to a situation and move forward.
•It enables us to look at failure and mistakes as lessons to be learned and opportunities for growth.
•It enables us to stay committed to our lives and goals, have a compelling reason to get out of bed in the morning. Commitment isn’t just restricted to our work, it involves family, friendship and relationship.
•It enables us to spend time and energy focusing on situations and events where we can have the most impact, feel empowered and confident.
From Primary to Secondary School, I connected with people who recognized and told me how resilient I was, but I never really felt it because I did not see myself that way. Fast forward to the period before and during university, my inner self would always ask , “Janet, do you know that you are resilient?”. I can’t count the number of times I’ve had a mental breakdown, failed and told myself “I’m giving up” but I kept going and eventually got better.
Resilience is the superpower of the child that we still carry in each of us today.
Let’s bring it home, December 2021 I told myself that I can’t continue blogging because the person who edits my blog post quit. I found myself always praying about this situation, I pulled myself up and continued blogging. Today, I’m genuinely grateful that I never gave up!
Resilience is a must-have skill to survive and grow personally and professionally.
How to develop Resilience as your super power:
The good news is that even if you’re not a naturally resilient person, you can learn to develop a resilient mindset and attitude. To do so, incorporate the following into your daily life:
•Pray: Have faith that you can overcome any challenge that may come your way because greater is He that is in you, than He that is in the world (1st John 4:4), You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you (Philippians 4:13).
•Learn to Relax: When you take care of your mind and body, you’re better able to cope effectively with challenges in your life.
•Practice positive thinking: This means listening to how you talk to yourself when something goes wrong. If you find yourself making statements that are permanent, pervasive or personalized, correct these thoughts and be your biggest cheerleader.
•Self-Awareness: Define yourself, be confident that you’re going to succeed no matter the challenges of life.
•Set goals: Discover your purpose in life. Learn to set S.M.A.R.T effective goals, that match your values and will help you learn from your experiences.
•Choose your response: Remember we all experience bad days, we all go through our share of crisis but we have a choice on how we respond. We can choose to react with panic and negativity or we can choose to remain calm and logical to take control and find a solution. Your reaction is always up to you.
•Be flexible: Understand that life is dynamic, carefully make plans, but it may need to be amended or scrapped.
•Be kind and compassionate to yourself first and others.
•Be authentic and optimistic.
•Live happily, love and laugh.
•Forgive, let go and move on.
Do you think you have the power of resilience?
Have you met or lived with a resilient person? Feel free to share your experience here.
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