Confident and Killing It

My Confident and Killing It Journey:
I lacked confidence in myself due to extreme speaking impairment in Elementary School.
I recall when we were told to write a story, present the story and the best will be pasted on the notice board. I wrote my story, read the story to my classmates during an interactive session we had. One of my classmates told me that I won’t be able to read what I wrote publicly and that I should give her my story. I thought about it and believed what she said because I had self-doubt. Then, I gave her the story.
Guess what??!
The next day, the story was pasted alongside her face, class and a congratulatory message on the notice board. I was speechless.
My friend told me that while she went to present and submit her story, they were only told to submit the stories without presenting. I was so sad 😔💔.
After that experience, I told myself that I will not let the speaking impairment stop me from being a star.

Without confidence, we get stuck and if we get stuck, we can’t get started.

Joining the debate club in High School built my confidence so much. Sometimes, I marvelled at how the Judges (my teachers) would clap and cheer me so loudly. At the end, I was awarded a certificate for my performance.
One of my best experience in my Confident and Killing It journey was when I explained a topic boldly in class. My teacher couldn’t stop talking about how excellent I preformed. I was so happy ☺. This is one of my favorite memories as a student and it motivated me to climb higher in my academics.

Confident means having a feeling or belief that you can do something well or succeed at something.

HOW TO BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE:
•Pray: Ask the Holy Spirit to grant you confidence in everything you do in life. For it is written, “Being Confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it until the day of Christ Jesus”(Philippians 1:6) and “You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you” (Philippians 4:13). Amen! These are my favorite scriptures in the Bible 😊💃🏽.

•Experience: As we successfully complete tasks and goals, our confidence that we can complete similar task again increases. Gaining experience and taking the first step can be very difficult. Often, the thought of starting something new is worse than actually doing it. This is where planning, preparation, learning, knowledge, training and positive thinking can help.
Break down tasks into small, achievable goals. Make each goal fit SMART criteria, that is make goals Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timed. The better you are at doing something, the more confident you become.
•Use Daily Affirmations: examples; “I am amazing”, “I will never give up”, “I’m grateful for who I am” OR install the “I AM” app which can help in your daily affirmation.

I saw this exquisite arrangement on Pinterest and Instagram. Waking up every day to see my Home Screen this way has made me more confident in life and live life to the fullest. p.s: These are my siblings 😍😩😍.

Monitor your progress: The best way to reach your goals, big or small, is to break them into smaller goals and monitor your progress. Write down your goals, it will help you stay on course and build confidence as you see the progress you’re making in real life.
•Do The Right Thing: Ask yourself what the best version of yourself that you aspire to be, would do and DO IT. Your actions and decisions define your character.
•Exercise: Besides benefitting your health in general, exercise helps memory retention, improves focus, helps manage stress and prevent depression. It improves every aspect of your life. Create time to take good care of yourself.
•Practicing gratitude is a key to living a happy life.
•Practice Self-Love: When you fall in love with yourself, you’ll have confidence, no matter what happens in life because that will come from within.

•Be Fearless: If you set big goals and have big dreams, you’re going to feel overwhelmed, you’re inevitably going to feel like you can’t do it. In those moments, you have to look inside yourself, gather every ounce of courage you have and just keep going. Think about how much you want to achieve your goals, then put your fear to the side and keep going, one day at a time.
•Be assertive: Being assertive means standing up for what you believe in and sticking to your principles. Being assertive also means that you can change your mind if you believe it is the right thing to do, not because you are under pressure.

•Do more of what makes you happy: What do you love to do in your spare time? Do you love lying in your bed and watch interesting TV series or movies? Whatever it is you love, create time and space for it because you need time to recharge to be your best self. For me, I love writing & blogging and that’s what I’ve been doing.

•Find yourself a confident role-model:
Ideally this will be someone that you see regularly, maybe in real life or on social media, somebody with a lot of confidence who you’d like to mirror. Observe them and notice how they behave when they are being confident. How do they behave when faced with a problem or mistake? Learn from others who are successful in fulfilling the tasks and goals that you wish to achieve, let their confidence guide you. As you become more confident, then offer help and advice, become a role model for someone less confident.

Meet My Confident and Killing It Role Model

Tiwalola Ogunlesi is a globally recognized and qualified Life Coach, International Speaker, Positive Psychology Specialist, Master Neurolinguistic Practitioner and founder of Confident and Killing It.

After struggling with low self-esteem throughout her teenage years, she’s now on a mission to transform the lives of women and girls all over the world.

Tiwalola founded Confident and Killing It in 2017 as a response to the generation cycle of low self-esteem among women and girls.

A positive and powerful voice in the midst of negativity, Tiwalola has been praised for her valuable insights and thoughtful content on topics such as becoming confident, overcoming fear and insecurities, dealing with imposter syndrome, mental health, wellbeing and entrepreneurship. She is known as a captivating speaker who understands how to infuse self-development and positive psychology with fun and inspiring stories that relate to millennials. Recently, she has delivered interactive experiences for organizations such as YouTube, Morgan Stanley, Facebook and Google. So far, she has equipped over 60,000 women across the globe, including London, Lagos, New York, Kigali and Johannesburg with the tools and knowledge they need to be confident.

Is your lack of confidence stopping you from living the life you want?
Tiwalola has created a workshop, a podcast (available on Apple, Spotify, Google and other platforms) and also, An Online Academy to boost your confidence, invest in your wellbeing and thrive in all areas of your life.

Our Founder, Tiwalola is becoming an author! Her debut book “Confident and Killing It” which is now available for pre-order will be published this year on JULY 7TH by HarperCollins. Click the link below to pre-order: https://smarturl.it/ConfidentKillingIt

When I entered Tertiary Institution in 2019, that’s when I knew about Confident and Killing It. Honestly, Confident and Killing It page on Instagram has helped built my confidence in writing, blogging, career, education and life as a whole. This page has also encouraged me to stay optimistic in life. I’m so inspired by Tiwalola. Confident and Killing It has made me who I am today and I’m so grateful.

It’s a New Month!
What did you learn from the Month of May?
Meanwhile, how’s your Confident and killing It journey been so far?
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